My point is that there's nothing wrong with not wanting to perform certain sexual acts, what is considered 'normal' sexual practise varies greatly. Now it's considered very prudish to not do it. A couple of generations ago oral sex was considered very kinky, and most women would not do it. also the thought of having *** in my mouth makes me feel sick. Isn't it a little bit embarrassing ladies? I don't know. Before you jump on the bandwagon and say I clearly don't love him otherwise I'd like to please him, I do love him but I physically can't bring myself to go down there. this is my first sexual relationship and I don't know whether it's wise for me to have the chat with him about this. I don't know what it is but I find the whole concept weird and dare I say it cringe.

I've just started having sex with my new boyfriend and the other day he asked me for a BJ and without any hesitation I said no.